Trust Issues

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A few years ago when I read the book, "The Shack" by William P. Young, I realized that this point of trusting God had been largely missing in my life. There is a part in the book where the main character stands before a judge and he is thinking that he is being judged but as it turns out he realizes that he had been judging God. He was doing so by saying that he knew better than God when he was questioning why things in his life had gone the way they had. He was not trusting God, he was judging God by condemning his actions for the twist and turns of his life. 

Many people struggle to form true business relationships or partnerships that can elevate their business because they cannot trust others. This lack of trust is rooted in not so much the inability to trust others as it is from the lack of trust in God. Can we trust that even when things go wrong the Lord is at work in our live? Can we trust that even if we expose ourselves to others and are not treated justly that God is still at work for his greater good? Yes, God asks us only to make sure our motives are aligned with his Will and then all will be resolved to his glory. 

Read Psalm 23 and then ask yourself honestly, is the Lord your Shepherd? If so what a great promise of peace. This, one of the most famous verses, says one thing loud and clear... "Trust Me." Do you trust God in your career and business relationships? Trust in God will change the way you treat everyone around you!  And, it is the pathway to true peace.

Psalm 23

1 The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want. 
2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 
3 he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake. 
4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, 
for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 
5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. 
You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 
6 Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, 
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever. 

Psalm 23 paraphrased 

 

A Promise from God


I am your shepherd
You will never have need of anything that I want for you.
If you will trust me, and allow me to be the shepherd of your life, 
I will give to you such great peace of mind that it will be like 
lying in the cool green grass of a springtime meadow;
And as you learn to deepen your love and trust,
a quietness will come over your soul
like a serene, calm lake.

It will be a time of great refreshment to your inner man,
thus preparing you to do whatever tasks I set before you to do;
And do not minimize any task that I give you to do,
as it is for my honor and glory, not yours.

There will be times when, because of my great love for you,
it will be necessary for me to lead you
into great darkness.....
Darkness that will be so great that you will feel as
though you are standing at the very edge of life, 
with death awaiting you below.

But always remember, I am still your shepherd.
In the darkness you may not be able to see me,
but you have my eternal promise that
I will never leave you nor forsake you.

If you will continue to trust me, 
even after you have been through a time of darkness, 
I will again flood your heart with such peace 
that you could even sit down with your enemies.

Your joy will be so great that it will spill over
into the lives of others.
And as your reward I will give to you all the really
important things of life.
When you have completed all that I have planned for you
to do on earth, 
I want you to come up and live
with me forever
and ever
and ever.

author unknown

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Fear & Joy

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At first pass you may think that there is not much of a connection between the two emotional states of fear and joy. But you would be wrong. I have found that there is a relationship and it is inverse. 

Most have heard and would agree that fear is the opposite of faith. And, I think for the most part this is a very fair statement. Joy is usually aligned with happiness and contentment in God. Again, this seems to be a accurate appraisal.  The heart of this inverse relationship is based in understanding how fear dominates our lives.

A deeper look at fear:

During most of my professional career I was driven to considerable worldly success by the fear of failure. I feared embarrassment. And, mostly I feared not being liked and accepted by others.  At times I feared losing my job. I feared losing my family and I feared for their safety or well being. As you see at some level I feared almost everything. If you knew me back then you might not have immediately seen it. But just under the surface there was an element of fear driving most every action and decision. As faith has grown in me these fears have dwindled and shrank. Over time I began to see that I did not have to always take action on everything. I did not have to exert my will on others to get the outcomes I thought I needed. I began to see that many times when taking action motivated by fear that I was actually generating more controversy and chaos. I saw that when I just focused on keeping my life in order and stayed out of the way that God would show up. Situations that before faith would have quickly been assessed as terrible or bad I began to see differently. I saw that even when things in the short-term did not go my way that God would show me a different plan of action or direction to take that I had not previously seen.  Many if not all of these routes eventually led to outcomes that where better than what I could have concocted for myself.  In short I began to really trust God with my life. Faith grew and fear shrank.

The unexpected:

So given that much of my life both conscious and subconscious was spent obsessing on how I could manage the world to avoid my fears from coming true I now realized that I had been wasting lots of valuable time. Time previously wasted on worrying about fears that rarely materialized would now unbeknownst to me be filled with contentment, peace, happiness and a newfound childlike Joy for life. I am not sure I ever really knew what Joy was before I experienced it like this. But Joy for me has risen in the absence of fear. Joy has come from trusting the Lord with all of my life including my Fears.

 

A True American Hero

     

In the book "Unbroken" by Laura Hillenbrand, Louie Zamperini writes a letter to his captor who beat him daily for two years, Mutsuhiro Watanabe.  This is an amazing example of how those that know forgiveness also know how to give it.

To Mutsuhiro Watanabe,

As a result of my prisoner war experience under your unwarranted and unreasonable punishment, my post-war life became a nightmare. It was not so much due to the pain and suffering as it was the tension of stress and humiliation that caused me to hate with a vengeance.

Under your discipline, my rights, not only as a prisoner of war but also as a human being, were stripped from me. It was a struggle to maintain enough dignity and hope to live until the war's end.

The post-war nightmares caused my life to crumble, but thanks to a confrontation with God through the evangelist Billy Graham, I committed my life to Christ. Love has replaced the hate I had for you. Christ said, "Forgive your enemies and pray for them."

As you probably know, I returned to Japan in 1952 and was graciously allowed to address all the Japanese war criminals at Sugamo Prison… I asked then about you, and was told that you probably had committed Hara Kiri, which I was sad to hear. At that moment, like the others, I also forgave you and now would hope that you would also become a Christian.

Louis Zamperini

Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption, by Laura Hillenbrand, Random House, 2010, pp. 396-97.

Failure

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Failure in life and in business happens. It is a part of the game. Many times what we at first thought was a great idea eventually turns out not to be. The only thing about failure that will define us is how we choose to deal with it. Failure can be a healthy part of the trial and error learning process. Failure can help show us what we really want. However, failure never happens when our motives are properly aligned with God's will. That's right, because what we might think is a failure today may in fact be apart of a his grander plan. A plan that we do not yet have the ability to see.

Recently, I interviewed for a position within my company and my reason for interviewing was that I thought this position would offer me new insights into our business and broaden my base of knowledge and experience. And, had I gotten thw job it might have. As it turns out I didn't get the position and while I was disappointed I quickly realized that maybe there is a reason that I cannot see today that this was not the right job for me. I don't know this to be true today, but I also don't know that it is not true. Therefore, I move forward and again get focused on the positive possibilities of tomorrow that are soon to come.

There have been other disappointments during my career and some that I have not handled as graceful as this one. But of recent I have a saying or thought that I tell myself over and over. Sometimes it takes weeks of saying this phrase before I can begin to see my life from a grander prospective than just my narrow view of today. It is as follows: "When my motives are honest and not self seeking. There is a future before me that has yet to unfold, in which, God will bring glory to his name thru me." I am not exactly sure where it came from I think it has evolved from several quotes or thoughts I have read and heard over the years. It has helped me tremendously and I hope you find it useful as well.
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Know Retirement

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Know Retirement

Over the last several years my retirement dreams have changed.  For a long time I thought that my nirvana in the golden years would be to own an off shore sport fisherman boat and run a part-time fishing charter service somewhere off the coast of Florida.  However, this is changing after being plagued by a recent memory.  Instead I have begun to think of how I could serve in some type of role to feed and house the poor. Thus, serving the ultimate missionary role of giving to others.

The memory that is driving this desire is of a moment just a little over a year ago.  I keep replaying it in my head almost like a reoccurring dream. The memory itself is easy to describe with regard to what happened. But how I feel about it is difficult for me to narrow down.  When my Father was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a little over a year ago I knew he did not have long to live.  In the weeks that followed I witnessed a rapid decline in both his physical and mental health.  It was near the end of his struggle while he was justifiably medicated for pain that the phone rang.  After the second ring, my Father, in his state of delirium mumbled, "John Jacobs, XYZ Insurance."   When this happened as I recall I responded in a comforting voice, “It’s okay Dad, we have it taken care of.”  This seemed to pacify him for the time and he went back to a restful state.  To most this would not be a memorable event but to me it was. The reason is because you had to know my Father to appreciate how dedicated to his work he was.  A big part of me is incredibly proud of how he was relentless in desire to keep his commitments. Even in a semi conscious state he was revealing how much time and effort he had put into being at work.  The troubling part of this memory is that while I am proud of the man my Father was, it also makes me sad.  I find it unsettling that his mind was still so focus on such trivial matters as work.  I feel guilty saying it, like I am somehow betraying him, but it is true. Obviously, I was sad that he was in a hopeless battle for his physical life that would soon end.  But the real sadness from this memory comes from the fact that his subconscious footprint was focused on work.  We all say that life is not about work.  I know that my Father did not want his life to be about work either.  And, I don’t believe it was.  But he did live by a relentless commitment to be accountable for what he saw as his responsibilities. 

He never retired.  Simply put he never made it there.  He had a plan to retire although he often joked that he had no desire to retire.  In the end he was actually three months away from retirement. 

Deep down I find this memory troubling because in my dying days I do not want my subliminal utterances to reference work or my career. I am pretty sure my Father would not have wanted it either, but they were.  I know we do not necessarily get to control those things.  I am sure that nurses and caretakers of the dying would tell you that many unfortunate things are said by the dying.  What I do know is that as a result I want to try to fill my life with something more than work.  I want to stop running for the mirage of retirement and live my hearts desires today. Most say that God and Family come first and then we head off into our seventy and eighty hour workweeks never living out what we would want our life to be. Never living day-by-day those things that will drive our subconscious mind when we are no longer able.  I want to stop waiting for a day that may never come and serve God now.  I can no longer wait until retirement because it may never come.